Burnout Recovery: Why Your Body Still Feels the Strain

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Why Intellectualising Burnout Doesn’t Actually Fix It

You know the signs of burnout. You’ve read the books, listened to the podcasts, and learned the strategies. You pace yourself, take breaks, and try to reframe your thinking. On paper, you’ve done everything right. So why does the exhaustion still linger? The tension in your shoulders, the migraines, the sudden waves of emotion, or the strange absence of joy. The truth is this: you may have addressed burnout intellectually, but not physically. Burnout recovery doesn’t fully happen in the mind alone.

Burnout and the Nervous System: Why Thinking Isn’t Enough

Burnout is often framed as a mindset problem, but neuroscience tells us something different. Burnout is closely linked to chronic activation of the stress response in the nervous system. Even when work pressure reduces, the body can remain stuck in a stress pattern. This may show up as constant tension, fatigue that doesn’t improve with rest, headaches or migraines, emotional numbness or overwhelm, and difficulty relaxing.

This happens because the nervous system operates largely outside conscious thought. Your stress response isn’t controlled by logic. It’s guided by interoception — the brain’s interpretation of signals coming from inside the body. So while your mind may believe the crisis is over, your body may still feel unsafe. When that happens, the stress response stays switched on.

My Experience: When My Mind Felt Better but My Body Didn’t

Months after experiencing burnout, I believed I had recovered. I was working fewer hours, I had stronger boundaries, and I was saying no more often. From a logical perspective, everything had changed. But my body told a different story. My neck would suddenly seize up without warning, and I experienced recurring sciatica. Some days I felt normal, and others I felt completely drained. Part of this was influenced by my fibromyalgia, but it still felt like my body hadn’t caught up with the life changes I’d made. It was as if I was managing life from the neck up, while the rest of my body lagged behind. My real recovery didn’t begin until I started working directly with my nervous system through Clinical Somatic Movement.

Why the Body Holds Onto Stress

When the nervous system experiences long-term stress, it learns that state as its normal baseline. Over time, the body adapts by creating patterns such as chronically tight muscles, shallow breathing, reduced body awareness, and difficulty fully relaxing. The body essentially practises stress until it becomes automatic. This is why simply thinking differently or resting more doesn’t always resolve burnout symptoms. Somatic work focuses on retraining these patterns. Through slow, deliberate movement and increased sensory awareness, the nervous system learns that it can return to a calmer baseline. Instead of fighting stress, somatic practices help the body rewrite the script.

Simple Somatic Tools to Reconnect With Your Body

If burnout recovery feels stuck, reconnecting with your body can help reset your nervous system. Here are a few gentle starting points.

Body Scan With Movement

Traditional body scans focus on noticing sensations. Try adding movement. Lie down comfortably and slowly tighten one part of your body, such as your hands or shoulders. Hold briefly, then release with control. This combination of awareness and movement helps retrain the brain’s control over muscle tension.

Pandiculation Instead of Stretching

Many people try stretching to release tension, but pandiculation works differently. Pandiculation involves gently contracting a muscle before slowly releasing it. For example, slowly shrug your shoulders upward, hold lightly for a few seconds, then gradually release them back down. This process signals the brain to reset the muscle’s resting tension level.

Breathing With Physical Feedback

Shallow breathing keeps the nervous system in a stress state. A simple exercise can help retrain your breathing pattern. Place a book on your stomach while lying down. As you breathe, watch the book rise and fall. Aim for slow, deep breaths that expand your diaphragm rather than your chest. This type of breathing signals safety to the nervous system.

Settle Your Nervous System Before Sleep

Many people go to bed while their body is still buzzing from the day. Before sleeping, try a short floor-based reset. Lie flat on the floor for five minutes and notice where your body touches the ground — your shoulders, hips, legs, and head. Focus on breathing into those contact points and allow gravity to help your body soften. This simple practice can help your nervous system shift toward rest.

Real Burnout Recovery Is Physical, Not Just Mental

Burnout recovery isn’t just about productivity strategies or mindset shifts. It’s about helping your nervous system feel safe again. You can’t simply think your way out of a dysregulated stress response. But when you work with your body, your breathing, and your nervous system, recovery becomes possible on a deeper level. And when your body finally believes it’s safe again, everything starts to change.

Ready to Recover — Properly?

Book a discovery call and let’s build a real recovery plan — one that starts from the neck down.

You can call us at 07768 493157, email alison@alisoncharles.co.uk or use the link below to book a complimentary discovery session.

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Because surviving isn’t the same as healing, and you deserve more than survival.

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Nervous System Burnout: Why the Calmest-Looking Person Isn’t Really Calm

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Nervous System Burnout: Why the Calmest-Looking Person Isn’t Really Calm

They speak softly, smile politely, and always say they’re “fine.” They never complain, keep everything moving, and seem like the rock of the team.

But that calm? It’s not composure. It’s a collapse.

As a stress coach and somatic educator, I’ve seen it again and again: the person who looks the most put-together is often the one closest to nervous system burnout.

The Neuroscience: Welcome to Functional Freeze

When most people think of the stress response, they think of fight or flight. But there’s a third state that’s more common than we realize — freeze.

Freeze doesn’t always look like panic. Often, it shows up as emotional flatness, social withdrawal, “I’m fine” responses, going quiet under pressure, or feeling numb, dissociated, or spaced out.

This is called dorsal vagal dominance, where the nervous system shuts down to preserve energy. It’s the biology of burnout. The body conserves fuel because it perceives the threat as inescapable.

And here’s the kicker: freeze can look like high-functioning coping, especially in professional settings.

Personal Story: My Mask Looked Like Control

When I burned out in 2011, I wasn’t a mess. I wasn’t breaking down in meetings. I was holding it together — leading teams, meeting deadlines, and showing up.

Outwardly, I appeared calm. Inwardly, I was numb. I thought I was being resilient. I didn’t realize I’d entered the third stage of the stress cycle: shutdown.

My nervous system had stopped reacting, not because I was coping, but because I was cooked. That’s when I began to study the body’s role in stress and resilience — and everything changed.

Somatic Insight: Stillness Isn’t Always Safety

In Clinical Somatic Movement, we look for neuromuscular patterns that signal shutdown: limited range of motion, flattened breathing, and hypertonic muscles that don’t release, even at rest.

People in freeze often can’t feel much sensation at all. That’s not peace — that’s disconnection. The first step is re-establishing a safe connection to the body, gently, without force.

Practical Tools: How to Spot and Soften Freeze

Check In, Not Out
Ask yourself: Do I feel my body right now, or am I just observing it? Freeze often feels like watching yourself from outside.

Micro-Movements = Micro-Reconnection
Lie down and slowly turn your head side to side, noticing how far it moves. Don’t push — just notice. Sensory input rebuilds trust.

Reclaim the Exhale
In freeze, breath gets stuck. Try long, slow exhales (6–8 seconds) through pursed lips. This tells your nervous system: we’re safe to soften.

Shift Environments
A frozen system needs fresh input. Change lighting, temperature, posture, or location every 60–90 minutes to break monotony.

Final Thought: Calm Isn’t the Goal. Regulation Is.

Let’s stop idealizing the always-composed professional. Let’s stop assuming silence means strength. Instead, ask: What does your nervous system need to feel safe and present again?

Feeling Fried Behind the Calm?

You don’t have to wait for a full burnout to reclaim your body.

Book a call to discuss your needs. You can call us at 07768 493157, email alison@alisoncharles.co.uk or use the link below to book a complimentary discovery session.

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Because calm isn’t regulation. And regulation is where your real power lives.

 

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The Hidden Cost of Chronic Stress: When You Stop Feeling Joy

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You’re doing everything right.

You show up to work, deliver results, and meet your targets.

You even say yes to the things that are supposed to feel good.

But something feels different.

Not dramatic. Just a quiet, persistent numbness.

Joy used to feel easy to access. A good coffee, a sunny afternoon, a laugh with friends.

Now those moments barely register.

You don’t feel terrible.

You just don’t feel much at all.

Stress Can Quietly Shut Down Your Reward System

When stress becomes constant, your nervous system protects itself by flattening your emotional range.

Unfortunately, that includes positive emotions.

Chronic stress floods the body with cortisol. Over time, this disrupts the brain’s dopamine pathways — the system responsible for motivation, pleasure and reward.

To cope with overload, your brain reduces the intensity of emotional spikes.

And it keeps reducing them.

The result is subtle but powerful.

The things that used to feel joyful now feel muted.

The Friday drink.
The post-gym buzz.
Your child’s joke.

It’s like experiencing life through soundproof glass.

This is one of the quietest consequences of stress stealing joy from your everyday experience.

What Emotional Numbness Looks Like

Many people don’t realise what’s happening because they still function normally.

But the signs are there.

You celebrate achievements but feel no real excitement.

You enjoy your weekend but don’t feel restored.

Gratitude journaling feels like another task.

You laugh, but it feels shallow.

You keep moving forward because stopping feels worse.

When stress keeps stealing joy, life can start to feel strangely flat.

Reconnecting With Joy Again

The good news is that emotional numbness from stress is reversible.

But the path back isn’t purely mental.

It’s physical.

1. Reawaken the Body’s Reward Pathways

Joy begins as a physical sensation.

Start with sensory experiences:

Warm water
Music
Movement or dancing
Time outdoors

The more your body feels, the more your brain reconnects with reward.

2. Reduce Constant Dopamine Stimulation

Modern life delivers endless micro-rewards.

Emails. Notifications. Social media. Caffeine.

These quick bursts can overload the reward system.

Step away from constant stimulation and focus on slower rewards:

Long walks
Cooking
Creative projects
Meaningful conversations

Spacing out dopamine hits helps the brain recover sensitivity.

3. Start With Small Moments of Joy

Don’t chase big emotional highs.

Instead, rebuild sensitivity to small positive experiences.

Notice warmth on your skin.
Stretch after sitting all day.
Stroke your dog’s ears.

The goal isn’t instant happiness.

It’s reconnecting with feeling.

Stress Might Be Stealing Joy — But It Can Come Back

If stress is the thief of joy, emotional numbness is the evidence.

For a long time I told myself, “You have a good life — be grateful.”

But gratitude as a thought isn’t the same as joy as a feeling.

True joy returns when the nervous system regains its balance.

I’ve watched people move from emotional flatness back to feeling fully alive again.

Not through mindset alone.

But by resetting the internal systems that joy depends on.

And that shift is absolutely possible.

Want Your Joy Back? Let’s Rewire the Circuit.
Book a discovery call and we’ll uncover where the spark got lost — and how to reawaken the system that knows how to feel again.

Book a call to discuss your needs. You can call us at 07768 493157, email alison@alisoncharles.co.uk or use the link below to book a complimentary discovery session.

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Stress Doesn’t Come From Deadlines – It Comes From Lies

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The Stress Isn’t Where You Think It Is

You’re staring at your to-do list, heart racing. Another deadline. Another week of pressure. But here’s the truth most people miss: it’s not the deadline that’s stressing you out — it’s the internal script you’re running about what that deadline means.

“I can’t mess this up.”

“If I ask for help, they’ll think I’m weak.”

“I should be able to handle this by now.”

These aren’t just thoughts. They’re neurological triggers — cognitive distortions that feed your stress response, whether the deadline’s real or not. And the body always responds before the conscious mind catches up

The Neuroscience: When Your Brain Buys the Lie

From a neurological standpoint, the amygdala (your threat detector) doesn’t distinguish between physical danger and internalised pressure. If your inner narrative is loaded with shame, perfectionism or fear of judgment, your brain activates the same cascade of stress hormones as if you were running from a lion.

Cortisol floods your system. Your prefrontal cortex (rational thinking, decision-making) gets dialled down. Your muscle tone increases, your breath shallows, and your nervous system locks into survival mode.

Lie to yourself often enough, and your body will believe you’re in danger — constantly.

Somatic Insight: The Body Bears the Burden

Even when you’ve convinced yourself “everything’s fine,” your body tells the truth.

Tight shoulders. A jaw that won’t unclench. Shallow, restricted breathing. Twitchy sleep. Digestive issues.

These are not random symptoms — they’re the language of somatic distress. Your body is reacting to the story you’re feeding it.

In Somatic Movement, we don’t just address the symptom. We interrupt the loop. We help the body feel safe enough to rewrite the narrative — and return to regulation.

A Personal Note: When I Believed I Had to Hold It All Together

In 2011, I was that person. Telling myself I had to be strong. That asking for help was a failure. That I could just push through.

I was successful on the outside, but breaking on the inside. My body began to shut down. Panic attacks, insomnia, and physical pain. I didn’t connect it to stress because was too busy just pushing through..

Turns out, the real stressor wasn’t life. It was the lies I was telling myself about how I should handle life.

That was the beginning of everything I now teach.

Practical Tools: How to Interrupt the Internal Stress Script

  1. Catch the Lie
    Write down the exact thought that spikes your stress. Look at it with curious detachment. Ask: Is this absolutely true? Or is it a learned belief?
  2. Feel It, Don’t Fight It
    Lie on the floor. Bring attention to your breath and jaw. Gently scan your body. Where are you gripping? Let go of one muscle at a time — even just 5%.
  3. Rewire the Script
    Instead of: “I have to do this perfectly,” try: “I can do this well enough to move forward.”
    Instead of: “I can’t show weakness,” try: “Asking for help is a sign of strength.”
  4. Restore Safety
    Do a simple somatic sequence: slow, mindful head turns while lying on your back. Track the range of movement and notice where resistance fades. This tells your nervous system: we’re safe now.

Final Thought: Deadlines Will Always Exist. But the Story You Tell Yourself? That’s Yours to Change.

Stress management isn’t about removing all pressure. It’s about reclaiming agency over the internal narrative that drives your physiology.

Your body is listening.

The question is: what are you telling it?

Ready to Rewire the Way You Handle Stress?

If this blog hit home, it’s time to go deeper.

Book a free discovery call and let’s explore how we can create a personalised plan to help you feel calm, capable, and back in control.

Your nervous system is waiting for permission to exhale.

Let’s give it that.

Don’t let stress dictate your life any longer. Take the first step towards a calmer, more balanced you today. Book a call to discuss your needs. You can call us at 07768 493157, email alison@alisoncharles.co.uk or use the link below to book a complimentary discovery session.

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Emails Are the New Sabre-Toothed Tigers

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Some people crack under pressure.
Others get sharp. Blunt. Shut down.
I used to do all three — in the space of a single Monday morning.

All it would take was an unexpected meeting drop-in, a vaguely worded email, and the sense that I was constantly falling short… even when everything looked “fine” from the outside.

Learning how to understand my body and behave and think differently is what led me to become a stress coach.

Here’s the truth: your nervous system wasn’t built for this version of work.

Your Brain Thinks Email = Danger

We evolved to survive short, sharp shocks, not long-term tension. Your nervous system, brilliant as it is, still scans your environment for threats like it’s the Stone Age.

It doesn’t care whether the tiger is a sharp-toothed predator or a message asking if you’ve got a minute.

Either way, your system goes: “Alert. Tense. React.”

Unlike a sabre-toothed tiger, you can’t run away from your inbox. You absorb it — with your jaw, your shoulders, your gut, your breath.

Over time, your body begins to operate in a state of semi-panic.
It becomes your new normal.
And that is what burns people out.

I know, because it happened to me.

What Happened When I Stopped Pushing Through

Back when I worked in high-pressure corporate environments, I thought I was managing things well. I was organised. Driven. Always available. But underneath, my body was holding on for dear life.

It took burnout — and a full-body crash — to realise that my nervous system wasn’t keeping up. I didn’t need better habits. I needed a new relationship with my body.

One of the things I discovered on my journey was the power of clinical somatic movement.

This isn’t yoga. It’s not stretching. And it’s not about sitting quietly and breathing.

It’s about retraining your reflexes — the patterns your body has picked up from years of “coping”.

Like the tension in your neck that never goes.
The shallow chest breathing you don’t notice anymore.
The way you brace your belly every time your phone pings.

Here’s What Helped (and Still Helps) Me

When I feel myself on edge, like recently, during a week of back-to-back client sessions and two family emergencies, I don’t reach for a meditation app.

I get on the floor.

I lie down, knees bent, and slowly scan my body from the inside. Then I notice where I’m gripping (usually my jaw and hips), and I start to move with awareness. Not to stretch. Not to “fix” anything. But to remind my nervous system it’s allowed to let go.

This is what I teach my clients.
Because when you feel safe in your body, everything else changes:

  • You react less

  • You sleep better

  • Pain lessens

  • Your mind clears

And most importantly, you stop living in a state of constant threat.

Not Woo, Just Wired Differently

Somatic work isn’t about being zen. It’s about being regulated.

It’s the missing link between logic and lived experience. The part of stress management that goes deeper than time-blocking and bubble baths.

So if you’re the kind of person who’s smart, switched-on, and secretly hanging by a thread, know this:

You’re not broken.
You’re just wired for a world that no longer exists.
And you can rewire it, without needing to quit your job or move to Bali.

Want to try it? Come to a session in my garden studio in Essex, or start with a free introductory course. You’ll learn how to feel safe, calm, and clear again — from the inside out.

You’ve coped long enough. Now it’s time to feel well.

Don’t let stress dictate your life any longer. Take the first step towards a calmer, more balanced you today. Book a call to discuss your needs. You can call us at 07768 493157, email alison@alisoncharles.co.uk or use the link below to book a complimentary discovery session.

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The Time I Had FOMO… on a Cruise

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And What It Taught Me About Stress, Business, and Permission

Alison and Tony dressed up on the cruiseYou’d think the moment I realised I had FOMO would be about missing a poolside cocktail or a spontaneous bit of karaoke.

But no. It was about work.

There I was, on a cruise—supposedly unwinding—when I logged into WhatsApp and saw a flurry of updates from my business network. Ideas sparking, actions flying, people making moves. I felt that familiar jolt: Should I be doing more? Have I missed my moment?

And that’s when it hit me.

This is exactly the trap I help people get out of.

That push to stay relevant. Keep up. Stay visible. Do more. Be more. It’s like a silent current pulling so many of us under—and I’m not immune, even as someone who teaches others how to manage stress and regulate their nervous systems.

But here’s what I’ve learnt (the hard way):

Sometimes the most radical, courageous thing you can do for yourself—and your business—is stop.

That moment on the cruise was a gift. It reminded me that rest doesn’t come neatly wrapped in external permission. When you run your own business, nobody’s going to hand you time off with a bow on it. You have to claim it.

You have to choose rest.
You have to protect it.
You have to own it.

As a stress coach, I talk a lot about nervous system safety. But let’s be real—if your self-worth is tied to your productivity, your nervous system never gets a break. You stay locked in that low-level hum of tension that eventually tips into burnout. I’ve lived that story. I know how it ends.

And here’s what I now believe:

– Rest isn’t lazy.
– Rest is leadership.
– Rest is how you create the clarity and spaciousness to think differently—and live better.

Because when you finally slow down, you start to see the difference between urgency and importance. You get a clearer signal beneath all the noise. You notice the whispers of what really matters.

Sometimes your next best idea doesn’t arrive while you’re grinding—it floats in when you finally exhale.

So if you’re feeling that tug—the “I should be doing more” ache in your chest—I want to offer you a gentle nudge:

When was the last time you truly switched off? Not just logged off, but let go?

If you can’t remember… you’re probably overdue.

And if you’re not sure how to even begin, that’s exactly what I help people with.

Because switching off isn’t something you wait to deserve. It’s a skill. One that your nervous system—and your future self—will thank you for.

Don’t let stress dictate your life any longer. Take the first step towards a calmer, more balanced you today. Book a call to discuss your needs. You can call us at 07768 493157, email alison@alisoncharles.co.uk or use the link below to book a complimentary discovery session.

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Productivity and Mindfulness: A Better Approach

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Let’s cut through the noise. Your endless to-do lists, the caffeine-fueled all-nighters, and the so-called “productivity hacks” that promise the world but leave you drowning in stress? They’re not working. And deep down, you know it.

The problem isn’t that you need another time-blocking technique or the latest Pomodoro app. The real issue is that your brain is overloaded, distracted, and addicted to busyness. In a world that glorifies hustle culture and burnout, true productivity isn’t about doing more – it’s about doing better. And that starts with mindfulness.

The Brutal Truth: You’re Sabotaging Your Own Focus

If you constantly feel like you’re running in circles, struggling to concentrate, or making sloppy decisions, you’re not just “bad at focus.” Your brain is under siege. Social media, non-stop notifications, and an obsession with multitasking have rewired your mind for distraction.

Enter mindfulness. Not as a fluffy wellness trend, but as a hardcore mental upgrade. If you want to operate at peak efficiency, make sharper decisions, and finally feel in control of your time, it’s time to ditch the distractions and rewire your brain for deep focus.

How Mindfulness Turns You Into a Productivity Powerhouse

1. Your Stress Is Killing Your Focus – Mindfulness Stops the Cycle

Your stress levels aren’t just making you miserable – they’re actively lowering your cognitive function. Chronically high cortisol levels (your body’s stress hormone) fry your ability to think clearly, remember important details, and stay engaged. Mindfulness directly reduces cortisol, giving you the mental clarity to perform at your best.

2. You Make Terrible Decisions Under Pressure – Mindfulness Fixes That

Ever made a knee-jerk decision you regretted five minutes later? That’s because stress hijacks your prefrontal cortex – the part of your brain responsible for logic and decision-making. Mindfulness rewires your brain so you can step back, assess situations with clarity, and make decisions that actually serve you.

3. Multitasking Is a Lie – Mindfulness Forces You to Focus

You think you’re being efficient by juggling multiple tasks at once? Wrong. Studies show that multitasking slashes productivity by up to 40% and increases errors. Mindfulness forces you to work with laser-like focus, making you exponentially more efficient.

4. You’re Wasting Time Without Even Realising It – Mindfulness Puts You Back in Control

Mindfulness forces you to become aware of where your time and energy are actually going. You’ll notice the pointless meetings, the endless email refreshes, and the mindless social media scrolls – and cut them out.

Want to Get Ahead? Start Using These Mindfulness Power Moves

Enough theory. If you’re serious about taking back control of your mind and your productivity, here’s what you need to start doing right now:

The 5-Minute Focus Reset

Set a timer for five minutes. Close your eyes. Breathe in for four counts, hold for four, and exhale for four. Every time your mind wanders, bring it back. Do this before starting any major task – and watch your ability to focus skyrocket.

The “Before You React” Rule

Before responding to an email, making a decision, or reacting to something that pisses you off, take a full deep breath. That moment of pause can mean the difference between an impulsive reaction and a strategic response.

Mindful Walking – Because Sitting Is Killing You

Get up. Walk. But do it with intention. Feel the ground beneath your feet. Notice your surroundings. Breathe deeply. This isn’t just some Zen exercise – it’s a scientifically proven way to reset your brain and regain focus.

The Harsh Reality: You Can Keep Grinding, or You Can Start Thriving

Mindfulness isn’t about slowing down – it’s about levelling up. If you’re tired of being exhausted, unfocused, and constantly behind, you have two choices: keep drowning in distractions or take control of your mind and start dominating your work (and life) with ruthless efficiency.

Your move.

 

Don’t let stress dictate your life any longer. Take the first step towards a calmer, more balanced you today. Book a call to discuss your needs. You can call us at 07768 493157, email alison@alisoncharles.co.uk or use the link below to book a complimentary discovery session.

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Salt and Sugar Look the Same… Until You Taste Them

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Stressed woman at computerPicture this: you’re making your morning coffee, bleary-eyed and half-awake. You reach for the sugar, take a big sip, and – yuck! Salt. Your taste buds are now in full rebellion. Stress works the same way. It can look like motivation, productivity, or even success—until you “taste” it and realize it’s draining you.

The Deceptive Twin of Success

It is easy to mistake stress for drive. When we are pushing through deadlines, attending back-to-back meetings, or juggling a million responsibilities, it can feel like we are on top of our game. But there is a fine line between thriving and just surviving.

Like salt and sugar, stress and healthy ambition may look alike from the outside, but their impact is completely different. The trick is knowing how to tell them apart.

How to Taste-Test Your Stress

Ask yourself:

  • Am I excited or exhausted? Healthy challenge energizes you. Chronic stress depletes you.

  • Is my mind racing or focused? A good challenge sparks creativity. Stress triggers overthinking and self-doubt.

  • Do I sleep well at night? Success should bring satisfaction, not a 3 AM worry spiral.

  • Do I feel in control or overwhelmed? When you’re in flow, you steer the ship. When stress takes over, it feels like you’re barely staying afloat.

Swapping Salt for Sugar (The Good Kind!)

If you’ve realized your stress levels are out of balance, don’t worry. You’re not alone, and you can make the shift.

  • Shake Up Your Perspective. Instead of “I have to,” try “I get to.” Shifting from obligation to opportunity rewires your brain.

  • Balance the Ingredients. Just as a chef carefully seasons their dish, be intentional with your workload. Schedule breaks, say no when needed, and prioritise recovery.

  • Slow Down and Savor. Stress makes us rush. Joy comes from presence. Take a deep breath, step back, and appreciate small wins.

  • Fuel with the Right Energy. Surround yourself with positive influences. Just like too much salt ruins a dish, toxic environments ruin your well-being.

Final Sip: Taste Before You Swallow

Not all pressure is bad—but unchecked stress is like mistakenly dumping salt in your coffee. Take the time to recognise whether what you’re experiencing is fueling you or draining you.

Because in the end, success should taste sweet—not bitter.

Even the Experts Get It Wrong Sometimes

I know all of this because I teach it. I coach leaders and professionals on stress management, resilience, and sustainable success. And yet—just like everyone else—I sometimes get tripped up.

The last three weeks have been a lot. Juggling client work, new projects, and all the behind-the-scenes tasks that come with running a business, I found myself slipping into that all-too-familiar trap of mistaking stress for momentum. I told myself I was just being “productive,” but deep down, I knew I was running on fumes.

It took a conscious step back—checking in with myself, adjusting my priorities, and practising exactly what I teach—to reset. Not because I wasn’t capable, but because no one, no matter how experienced, is immune to stress. The real skill isn’t in avoiding it altogether; it’s in recognizing when it’s taking over and having the tools to course-correct.

So if you’re feeling overwhelmed, don’t beat yourself up. Even those of us who train others on this stuff have to pause and get our house in order from time to time. What matters is that you notice, reset, and choose the version of success that tastes sweet.

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Why Your Lifestyle is Sabotaging Your Success

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Let’s cut through the noise: if you’re exhausted, unfocused, and constantly playing catch-up at work, it’s not because you’re “too busy”—it’s because you’re making terrible lifestyle choices.

As a stress management coach, I see it all the time. High-achieving professionals wearing burnout like a badge of honour, guzzling caffeine instead of water, skipping meals in favour of “powering through,” and staying up late scrolling LinkedIn, pretending it’s “networking.”

And then, they wonder why their brains are fried, their bodies are sluggish, and their productivity is in the gutter.

If you want to stop running on fumes and perform at your peak, it’s time for a serious reality check. Here’s how you’re wrecking yourself—and what to do instead.

1. Your Diet Sucks (And It’s Destroying Your Brainpower)

Think you can fuel a high-performance lifestyle on caffeine, sugar, and whatever sad office snack is lying around? Think again.

Every time you grab ultra-processed food or food full of sugar, you’re actively reducing your cognitive function. Your brain needs real fuel—protein, healthy fats, and slow-releasing carbs—to keep you sharp and focused.

Fix It:

  • Ditch the sugar crashes. If you are a breakfast person, start your day with protein and fat (eggs, Greek yoghurt, nuts, overnight oats) instead of processed carbs.
  • Stop treating coffee as a meal. Hydration is key—your brain needs water, not just espresso shots.
  • Eat like your success depends on it. Because it does. Balanced meals keep energy, productivity and concentration levels stable.

2. You’re Too “Busy” to Exercise – And It’s Killing Your Performance and Productivity

If you think skipping workouts gives you more time to work, you’re delusional.

Exercise isn’t just about looking good—it’s about thinking fast, reacting well, and staying mentally sharp. A sedentary lifestyle slows your brain function, making you sluggish and easily overwhelmed. And no, pacing during Zoom calls doesn’t count.

Fix It:

  • Make movement mandatory. Short on time? A 20-minute walk in the fresh air is still better than nothing. Stop making excuses.
  • Break up your day. Sitting for 8+ hours straight is a cognitive death sentence. Get up. Stretch. Move.
  • Pick something you actually enjoy. Hate the gym? Fine. Try boxing, hiking, or even dancing in your kitchen. Just move your damn body.

3. You’re Treating Sleep Like an Afterthought (And It Shows)

If you’re “proud” of how little sleep you get, congratulations—you’re sabotaging your own success. Sleep deprivation slows reaction times, reduces focus, and increases stress hormones, making you an inefficient, irritable mess.

Yet, professionals act like sleeping is optional. It’s not. It is the most underrated productivity hack in existence.

Fix It:

  • Stop treating Netflix as a bedtime routine. Screen time kills melatonin production. Read a book instead.
  • Set a bedtime like an actual adult. You wouldn’t show up late to work, so why treat your brain with less respect?
  • Power naps = secret weapon. But keep them under 30 minutes, or you’ll wake up more useless than before.

Reality Check: You Can’t Afford to Ignore This

The excuse of being “too busy” is just that—an excuse. The highest performers don’t just work hard, they recover hard. They fuel their brains, move their bodies, and prioritise sleep because they know it’s non-negotiable for success.

So, what’s it going to be? Keep grinding yourself into the ground—or finally, start acting like your health is the ultimate career strategy?

Time to decide.

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Cultivating Self-Compassion: A Gateway to Lasting Wellbeing

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In the current climate, stress has become an inevitable companion for many. I often find myself emphasising the profound impact that self-compassion can have on overall well-being. In this blog, we’ll explore the significance of self-compassion and delve into practical exercises to nurture this crucial aspect of self-care.

Understanding Self-Compassion

At its core, self-compassion involves treating ourselves with the same kindness and understanding that we would offer to a friend facing challenges. Dr. Kristin Neff, a pioneering researcher in the field, defines self-compassion as comprising three key elements: self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness.

Self-Kindness:

Embrace the practice of treating yourself with warmth and understanding rather than harsh self-judgment. When faced with setbacks or difficulties, acknowledge your feelings and respond with kindness, just as you would to a dear friend.

Common Humanity

Recognise that suffering and challenges are universal experiences. Understand that everyone encounters obstacles on their journey, and you are not alone in facing difficulties. This sense of shared humanity can alleviate the isolation often felt during tough times.

Mindfulness

Cultivate a non-judgmental awareness of your thoughts and emotions. Mindfulness allows you to observe your inner experience without getting entangled in self-critical narratives. It creates space for self-reflection and fosters a more balanced perspective.

The Importance of Self-Compassion

Research consistently demonstrates that practising self-compassion is associated with improved health, increased emotional resilience, and greater overall well-being. When we approach ourselves with kindness and understanding, we create a supportive inner environment that enables us to navigate life’s challenges with greater ease.

Practical Exercises to Develop Self-Compassion

Comic Strip Therapy:

Create a comic strip starring none other than yourself! Depict your challenges, but add a superhero twist—turn your flaws into superpowers. Embrace the quirks and imperfections, and watch yourself triumph in a burst of self-compassion!

Dance of the Affirmations:

Dance like no one’s watching, but this time, let your body groove to positive affirmations. Make up a funky dance routine incorporating moves that represent self-love. Bonus points for adding a catchy self-compassion anthem to your playlist! Here are some of my favourites:

  • ‘Just Like Fire’ by P!nk
  • “Roar” by Katy Perry
  • “Don’t Stop Me Now” by Queen
  • ‘Good Vibrations’ by The Beach Boys
  • ‘Don’t Worry, Be Happy’ by Bobby McFerrin
  • ‘I’m Still Standing’ by Elton John

DIY Self-Love Potion:

Channel your inner wizard and concoct a DIY self-love potion. Mix ingredients that represent your strengths, achievements, and happy memories. Take a sip whenever you need an instant boost of self-compassion magic! Well OK, maybe a small bucks fizz! For a grown-up non-alcoholic drink I do like the Gin Zero and a little light Fever Tree Tonic.

Mirror Pep Talk Olympics:

Turn mirror pep talks into a sport! Stand in front of the mirror, and with enthusiasm worthy of an Olympic commentator, cheer yourself on for the day’s achievements. Award yourself imaginary medals for self-compassion prowess.

Emoji Emotion Journal:

Express your daily feelings using emojis in a creative emotion journal. Illustrate your self-compassion journey through a visual diary of smileys, hearts, and even the occasional dancing pineapple. It’s like a fun, personalized emoji movie of self-love!

Gratitude Graffiti Wall:

Transform a wall (or a piece of paper) into your gratitude graffiti masterpiece! Write down things you love about yourself, moments of self-compassion, and achievements. Add doodles, colours, and glitter—because self-compassion should sparkle! I’m on a temporary glitter hiatus at the moment though. 40 Christmas cards later, all with glitter. It keeps turning up all over the house. Mind you, it makes the duster sparkle after dusting the rooms!

Karaoke Kindness:

Pick your favourite uplifting song and turn it into a karaoke session. Belt it out with passion, and remember, in this performance, you’re the rockstar of fun-loving self-compassion!

Fantasy Compassion Island:

Close your eyes and imagine your very own Compassion Island. Picture serene beaches of self-love, confidence mountains, and rivers of resilience. Take a mental vacation to this magical place whenever you need a boost of self-compassion.

Remember, self-compassion doesn’t have to be serious—it can be a playful and joyful adventure!

In the journey toward optimal well-being, self-compassion is an invaluable companion. By embracing self-kindness, recognising our shared humanity, and practicing mindfulness, we create a resilient foundation for navigating life’s ups and downs. I encourage you to integrate these exercises into your daily routine and witness the transformative power of self-compassion in enhancing your overall quality of life.

For more hints and tips and also an insight into my daily routine of  Self-Compassion and Lasting Wellbeing, do take a look at my Instagram, where I share some of my routines on video.

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My Zoe Journey

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Nourishing Body and Mind with Zoe

Embarking on a journey toward better health and nutrition is a personal and transformative experience. My path took a significant turn when I discovered the Zoe Program. A comprehensive approach to understanding and optimising my body’s needs. I’ll share how this programme has become an essential part of my wellness journey, offering unique insights into my body’s dynamics and fostering a deeper connection between nutrition and overall well-being. I will do periodic updates to share what is happening, as I embark on this year-long journey to discover better health.

Understanding My Body:

The Zoe Programme is not a diet plan; it’s a personalised roadmap to better health. The programme leverages cutting-edge research in microbiome science, genetics, and nutritional analysis to provide a tailored approach to individual needs. By examining my unique biological markers, Zoe revealed a wealth of information about how my body processes different foods, allowing me to make informed choices that resonate with my physiology.

Personalised Nutrition:

One of the standout features of Zoe is its commitment to personalisation. The program doesn’t believe in one-size-fits-all solutions; instead, it recognises the diversity in our bodies’ responses to various foods. Armed with insights from my gut microbiome and my body’s ability to process sugar and fat, Zoe created a plan specifically designed to optimise my energy levels, support my fitness goals, and address any potential dietary needs.

My sugar score was better than I expected, while still a score of poor I expected it to be worse than it was.. However, my microbiome score is bad. My blood fat control is also poor. My diet assessment is also poor. Not enough fibre and not enough plant diversity. A little too much fat and too much meat that does not lead to better gut health. Now remember these are the scores for my body only and are not advice for anyone else in any way, shape or form.

Gut Health and Well-Being:

Zoe places a strong emphasis on the role of gut health in overall well-being. Through the programme, I am gaining a deeper understanding of the intricate relationship between my gut microbiome and various aspects of health, from digestion to immune function. The personalized recommendations not only improved my digestive comfort but also positively impacted my mood and energy levels, demonstrating the interconnectedness of gut health and holistic well-being. I am also implementing the information further by listening to the Zoe podcasts when I am at the gym. It is helping me to deepen my understanding and look at many different aspects of health.

Educational Empowerment:

What sets Zoe apart is its commitment to education. The program doesn’t just provide a set of rules to follow; it equips participants with the knowledge to make informed decisions about their nutrition. From deciphering food labels to understanding the science behind dietary recommendations, Zoe empowers individuals to take control of their health journey, fostering a sense of autonomy and self-discovery.

Why I Started this Journey

In 2011 I was diagnosed with burn-out and was signed off work for six months. On returning to work I was so tired all the time and my brain felt like it was full of cotton wool. I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia.  Here is where my resilience journey started. Healing myself and learning to manage stress. Changing my mindset to be positive and supportive. My weight slowly went up though and I struggled to lose it. Several diets later, I discovered Zoe and decided that, like all things, sustainable change comes not from a quick fix, but from a different approach. This started with the 2 week Zoe tests. A glucose monitor and tests were sent to the lab for gut microbiome and blood fat responses. It was comprehensive.

I have all the results and now start the journey of changing the way I eat and how I view food. This morning I had a wonderful nutritionally balanced brunch of almond pancakes and stewed apples.

Challenges

I am in the habit of eating quite a lot of meat, which, for my body, is not so great. I am transitioning slowly to more beans and pulses. But I am also balancing cooking for my husband too, and taking into consideration his food preferences. It is not always plain sailing, but it is a learning process.

Conclusion:

My Zoe journey has been a revelation. Unveiling a personalized approach to nutrition and health that extends far beyond conventional dieting. By harnessing the power of science and technology, the programme has empowered me to make choices that align with my body’s unique needs. Leading to improved well-being and a renewed sense of vitality. If you’re ready to embark on a transformative journey toward better health, Zoe might just be the personalised guide you’ve been searching for too.

Check back for future blogs to see how I am getting on.

For more information on Zoe click here. Or for their block click here. Even if the full programme is not for you, the website contains a wealth of useful data.

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Unleashing the Power of Journaling

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Journaling, a helpful development tool

In the journey of self-development, one powerful tool often underestimated is the simple act of journaling. As a coach who has personally experienced transformative benefits through journaling, I can attest to its profound impact on changing mindsets, uncovering unconscious patterns, and fostering positive change. In this blog, let’s delve into the world of journaling and explore the myriad ways it can become your compass on the path to personal growth. When I coach, I remind my students what a powerful tool it is towards enabling a growth mindset and changing patterns of behaviour.

Mindset Shifts Through Reflection

Journaling serves as a mirror to our thoughts and emotions, providing a platform for self-reflection. As a coach, I have witnessed the incredible power of this process in shifting mindsets. By putting pen to paper, we engage in a dialogue with ourselves, allowing us to explore our beliefs, attitudes, and perceptions. This reflective practice unveils patterns of thinking that may be limiting our potential or hindering personal growth.

Unmasking the Unconscious

Our minds are vast landscapes, with many thoughts residing in the unconscious realm. Journaling acts as a guide, helping us navigate these uncharted territories. As we pour our thoughts onto paper, we often stumble upon hidden fears, unresolved conflicts, and deeply ingrained habits. Bringing these aspects into conscious awareness is the first step towards understanding and ultimately transforming them.

Creating Awareness for Positive Change

Awareness is the cornerstone of personal development. Journaling not only brings attention to negative patterns but also highlights positive aspects of our lives. Acknowledging our strengths, achievements, and moments of gratitude fosters a positive mindset. The act of regularly noting down positive experiences can reshape our outlook on life, making us more resilient and open to opportunities.

Setting Goals and Tracking Progress

As a coach, goal-setting is a fundamental aspect of the work I do. Journaling provides a tangible space to set and track personal goals. Writing down aspirations, breaking them into actionable steps, and recording progress helps maintain focus and motivation. It serves as a roadmap, guiding us towards the desired destination while celebrating the small victories along the way.

Embracing Emotional Intelligence

Understanding and managing emotions is a key component of personal development. Journaling allows us to explore our emotional landscape, identifying triggers and patterns. By expressing and processing emotions on paper, we develop emotional intelligence, enhancing our ability to navigate complex situations with grace and resilience.

In the realm of self-development, journaling is a versatile and accessible tool that empowers individuals to shape their narrative. I encourage my clients to embrace this practice as a means of self-discovery and growth. The act of journaling is not just about recording events; it’s a dynamic process that unfolds the layers of our inner selves, fostering a profound transformation in mindset and behaviour. So, grab a notebook, let your thoughts flow, and embark on a journey of self-discovery that has the potential to reshape your life in ways you never imagined.

To make it even more special, go and find a notebook that feels special. One that really talks to you. Maybe it is a hand-crafted leather, or maybe something colourful. Now go find a quiet nook and get writing.

 

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Empowering Your Wellbeing: The Transformative Journey from a Fixed to a Growth Mindset

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In the quest for a fulfilling and stress-free life, there’s one crucial factor that often goes overlooked. As a well-being and stress coach, I’ve witnessed time and time again the profound impact of shifting from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset. In this blog, I’ll guide you through the importance of this transformation and provide you with actionable steps to make this empowering shift.

I have just started reading Ellen Langer: The Mindful Body: Thinking Our Way to Lasting Health. She is a mindset genius. It reminded me though, of just how much my mindset has changed in the last 12 years. I was a great one for catastrophising. After being off with burnout in 2011, I had a lack of self-confidence and was constantly worried about what other people thought. thus started a journey to health and well-being. One of the greatest tools I learned how to use – yes, you guessed it, a growth mindset.

Understanding Mindset

Before we dive into the transformation process, let’s clarify the two mindsets at the heart of this discussion: fixed and growth mindsets.

Fixed Mindset

This mindset is characterised by the belief that your abilities, intelligence, and talents are fixed traits. People with a fixed mindset tend to avoid challenges, shy away from effort, and are discouraged by setbacks. They may fear failure and often view it as a reflection of their inherent capabilities.

Growth Mindset

In contrast, a growth mindset is all about seeing your abilities as qualities that can be developed and improved through effort, learning, and perseverance. Those with a growth mindset embrace challenges, enjoy putting in the effort, and view setbacks as opportunities for growth.

The Importance of Shifting

Why does making the shift from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset matter so much, especially in the context of well-being and stress reduction?

Resilience in the Face of Challenges

When you adopt a growth mindset, you’re more likely to see challenges as opportunities rather than obstacles. This resilience is a vital asset in reducing stress and improving your overall wellbeing.

Continuous Self-Improvement

A growth mindset fosters a desire for self-improvement and lifelong learning. By continuously evolving and developing your skills, you increase your sense of purpose and fulfilment.

Reduced Fear of Failure

Fear of failure is a significant stressor for many. A growth mindset helps you embrace failures as learning experiences, reducing the fear associated with making mistakes.

Enhanced Problem-Solving

Shifting to a growth mindset enhances your problem-solving abilities. You become more adaptable and creative in finding solutions to life’s challenges.

Making the Shift: Practical Steps

Now that we’ve established the importance of shifting, let’s explore some practical steps to help you make this transformation:

  • Self-Awareness: Begin by recognizing your current mindset. Reflect on your beliefs and attitudes towards your abilities and potential. Self-awareness is the first step in any transformative journey.
  • Embrace Challenges: Challenge yourself in areas where you may have held a fixed mindset. This could be in your career, hobbies, or personal life. Take on tasks that push your boundaries and force you out of your comfort zone.
  • Cultivate a Learning Attitude: View every experience as an opportunity to learn and grow. Whether it’s a success or a failure, focus on the lessons you can extract from it.
  • Replace Negative Self-Talk: Be mindful of the way you talk to yourself. Replace negative self-talk with affirmations that promote growth, such as “I can learn from this” or “I’m capable of improvement.”
  • Seek Support: Consider seeking the guidance of a coach, who can help you navigate this shift. They can provide valuable insights and support to accelerate your progress.
  • Practice Patience: Remember that changing your mindset is a process, not an overnight transformation. Be patient with yourself and celebrate your progress along the way.

Conclusion

In the realm of well-being and stress reduction, the journey from a fixed to a growth mindset is nothing short of a game-changer. By choosing growth, you empower yourself to embrace challenges, reduce the fear of failure, and continuously improve. Your newfound resilience and adaptability will not only benefit your overall well-being but also lead to a more fulfilling and satisfying life. Start your transformation today, and watch as your stress levels decrease and your sense of empowerment soars.

A growth mindset has helped me rebuild my shattered self-image and regrown my confidence. I continue with growth and learning today. It is a never-ending journey. I am always looking at challenging my views and looking at what I can change for the better.

One of the key tools in my arsenal is journaling. We’ll talk more about that next time.

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Life has Thrown Me a Curveball

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You Catch it!

The curveball is the life opportunity to experience things that are out of your comfort zone. They come at you unexpectedly and throw you out of balance. This is exactly what happened to me recently. Not one but three, in quick succession, and they were both major and really threw me. Two seriously impacted my business and one was a health scare that had me in A&E.

Life can be like that though! Everything is going great and then you just have one of those months where nothing falls into place and everything feels wrong. It is called Life!

Knowing that I needed to take a step back and see what I needed to do to maintain my sanity and my business, I did just that. This is one of the keys to Real Resilience. Noticing when you are experiencing the stress response and doing something about it.

When life throws you curveballs, catch them with both hands and see what learning and development opportunity exists within them. There always is at least one.

What to do when life gets difficult and stressful

Step 1

The first question I asked myself was, what do I need to do for my business and myself to stay resilient and not collapse under pressure?

Looking after my health and that of my employees is always my first priority. Making sure that I have the headspace and the personal space to think about what is happening. Then I can formulate a plan and think about what needs to be done to manage the various situations.

The first curve ball also felt quite personal, so it was really important to manage my mindset and stay positive. I did some deep breathing and got my brain and body out of panic mode.

Like most people, in stressful situations, I feel stressed when they have just happened. However, I notice my stress responses almost instantly and immediately start following the process to get back to balance.

Deep breathing sends the right signals to the brain to turn off flight or flight mode. You cannot think straight when you are in fight or flight, the body shuts down to only be able to manage essential body functions. Thinking rationally is not one of them. Such a simple step but so critical to maintaining Real Resilience.

Step 2

The next process I go through to manage whatever curveball has been thrown is a bit of root cause analysis. Basically, what I wanted to know was why these things had happened, and could I have done anything to avoid them?

For the first situation, I realised that my communication around expectations could have been more detailed. This was really good information to have. It meant that this was situation I could avoid in the future. While it did not resolve my current issue it was still a great lesson learned that would help me in the future. I am comfortable with making mistakes and learning from them, it is how we grow and develop as leaders.

For the second curveball, I understood that there really was nothing I could have done differently. It really was an unexpected situation. However, I could make sure that I had all the correct processes and procedures in place to manage the situation. A quick call to my HR legal go-to person confirmed I had followed all the right steps and had all the right things in place. So the question now was, what could I do to minimise the impact on my business and not keel over with extra work myself? What was my Plan B?

Now I felt like I was in control and taking action. While I could not throw back the curve balls by having a plan and lessons learned, I still felt I was in control. This was a really important step. So often when we feel fear, anxiety, or want to resist change, it is because we feel we have zero control. That is a very uncomfortable place to be. However, it can be a great place for learning and changing things around. Streamlining and coming up with new ideas. Never miss the opportunity to catch a curve ball.

While I could not avoid the situation, I could definitely take ownership of my response. Then I could make a plan and take action which put me back in control and able to move forwards.

So how could you apply this to your business or personal situations? What is keeping you up at night?

Take these simple steps.

  • Breathe.
  • Manage your mindset.
  • Carry out root cause analysis.
  • Plan alternatives,
  • Take positive action.

If you have employees resistant to change, you can also apply this process. People resist change because they’re out of their comfort zone and feel like they have no control. Talking to them, explaining things, getting them involved in the way forward. Can often resolve resistance.

Step 3

Personal health care. So after being in A&E and finding out I might have gallstones I immediately researched what I could do to manage the pain. A quick trip to my go-to acupuncturist and I feel much better. I have to go through a few more tests and will have to change my diet for a while. There is a silver lining though – weight loss. I’m sure this topic will be the subject of a future blog. I have also found that the somatic movement of the arch and curl is very helpful for relieving the pain. Another bonus!

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