Building Greater Resilience


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Last time I talked about resilience in the moment and how to calm down.  This time I want to cover more on building resilience for the longer term.

If there is one thing that I could honestly say has made a major difference in my life, more than anything else, when it comes to managing stress, it is meditation.  I often hear the term mindfulness used.  Whilst a little more specific about being in the moment I find it another form of meditation.With output expectations and targets increasing for most, workforces are under pressure deliver more value in shorter timelines.   Studies show that meditation can work hand in hand with productivity, helping to balance these two extremes and enhance focus on what matters the most.  It can help clear the mind and then you can return to what needs your attention with renewed energy and focus.

Meditation does not just mean sitting down in a quite corner stilling the mind, although often I do that too, it can mean a quiet walk, taking time to appreciate what is around you.  It can also mean doing what you love.  I can garden in my allotment and easily loose several hours focussing on a particular job.  I leave feeling invigorated and carefree.  Anything that brings balance and calm can help.  That is not to say sitting watching hours of TV will have the same calming affect.  That tends to mean avoidance and switching off so beware!!

The other way to build resilience is by gently nudging yourself out of your comfort zone with stretch tasks and activities.

Often time, when talking to clients it is also lack of confidence that holds them in a pattern of angst.  Worry that they are not up to a stretch task.  9 times out of 10 we are much more imaginative than the reality surrounding us and the worry and fear of what  might go wrong can feel overwhelming.  Most of the time though the reality is not nearly as scary as what you imagined in your head.  (We will cover the topic of negative self talk at a later date).  It is a lot of energy wasted, worrying about something that might never happen.  They key is to nudge yourself in small steps and makes sure you have a good support network around you.  Also having a good mentor or coach to help you nudge but also to pick you up and dust you off if you fall is a great idea.  Remember not being able to be perfect is human.  It is all a learning experience and as long as you learn and move on then progress is being made in the right direction.  The more you nudge the more you find you will be able to push yourself.  Suddenly when that promotion is presented or that new opportunity is around you will find yourself able to grab it with both hands.